I need to proceed this post with saying that Erik really helps out A LOT around the house. I'd say our work load is split 50/50 and I'm not just being a delusional wife that thinks her husband helps out a lot but really doesn't. He definitely does more laundry than me and he always cleans the bathrooms when I ask him too. If I cook, he does the dishes and I could go ON and ON. So this is NOT a personal attack on Erik and I really appreciate everything he does and I know that I am VERY VERY lucky to have him.
With that said. It must be really nice to be a guy and not be expected to write thank you notes... EVER! I mean how come girls are just expected to write the thank yous? And how did guys manage to get off the hook for so many years?!?
Ok and with that said, I also need to say that I am not anti-thank you notes. I love getting them and I think people genuinely deserve to receive them! And I really try hard to be sincere and not cookie cutterish. I think about who I'm sending it to and then think about what they gave me and I try to take a moment to REALLY tell them how much I appreciate the said gift.
So Last night I finally sat down to do my first round of Thank yous for gifts for Molly and I started to tell Erik the ones that I wanted him to write, and he refused to help! I was like, "No you don't understand, I'm not ASKING you to help. Here is the list and you need to choose 2 to write."
We go back and forth and I threaten that they won't get done if he doesn't do them (empty threat because I would never intentionally not send one out).
Side bar: I'm pretty sure for the wedding thank yous I made him do at least 25 or so and I don't remember him putting up such a big fight!
BUT this time, cue the violins.... "But my handwriting is sooo bad and it's embarrassing and it will take away from the thank you because I know whoever reads it will open it up and say, 'man did a two year old write this?'" (his handwriting IS pretty brutal haha)
Me: "Your mom and sister DON'T CARE about your handwriting, but FINE, WHATEVER!!" i was soooo mad
Me: "I don't want to talk about it anymore!! Just forget about it!" Rip the card out of his hand that I gave him.
5 min later...
Erik: some question about the TV or something on the TV
Me: "Don't talk to me; I'm not talking to you!"
I got over it a few minutes later and he did help me with what to write in my last one, (although writing this post and reliving it has me a little hot again!) but it's just one of those things that's not fair! It's just not fair!!
men who never have to write thank you notes